Blindfold bonking tops the sex bucket list for women
But, for the men, three’s not a crowd – inviting someone else to join in tops the bill

This year has been a defining one. It has forced us remember our wants, needs and desires as well as a time to reconnect with ourselves and our partners. This has led to a lot of people wanting to try new things both in and out of the bedroom.
To explore just how kinky and audacious Brits have been this past year, OnBuy.com set out to investigate what men and women are eager to try sexually. Close to 3,000 (2,897) Brits were asked to rank 10 activities that they really want to try with their partners!
And this is what women said they wanted:
BUCKET LIST ITEM (WOMEN): | PERCENTAGE OF WOMEN THAT WANT TO TRY: |
Blindfold | 35% |
Sex in a Jacuzzi | 31% |
Sex in an elevator | 26% |
Roleplay | 24% |
Sexy photoshoot | 20% |
Bondage | 18% |
Choking | 16% |
Phone sex | 14% |
Car sex | 12% |
Bringing in a third party | 12% |
Sex on beach | 10% |
Watching porn with partner | 9% |
Using flavoured lube | 8% |
Writing FanFic for partner | 7% |
In first place is being blindfolded with a close to a third (35%) of women wishing to try this sex fad. Shutting down one sense intensifies others, so it is no wonder that the idea of being blindfolded elevates the interest of many. How much inspiration was gained from watching the 50 Shades of … trilogy? We can only guess.
Coming in at number two for women is sex in a jacuzzi with 31% of the votes. Interestingly, this was rated highly among men and women, with 5% more women wanting to try this than men.
In third place for the girls is sex in an elevator with 26% of the votes. Well, we could all do with a lift every now and then.
In last place for women (and not for everyone) is writing a fanfic for their partner at 7% of the votes.
What men want:
BUCKET LIST ITEM (MEN): | PERCENTAGE OF MEN THAT WANT TO TRY: |
Bringing in a third party | 36% |
Video call sex | 30% |
Sex in a Jacuzzi | 26% |
Sex in a public toilet | 22% |
Roleplay | 22% |
Making a sex tape | 20% |
Sex on a balcony | 19% |
Watching porn with partner | 17% |
Bondage | 16% |
Anal sex | 14% |
Car sex | 13% |
Couple toys | 12% |
One night stand | 9% |
Sex with food | 8% |
Playing with hot wax | 5% |
The survey showed that men’s top desire on their sexual bucket list is bringing in a third party (36%).
With the use of Zoom increasing by 2,000% over lockdown, it’s no surprise that men cited video call sex as their second most desired sexual venture with 30% of the vote! Just make sure your family members are not invited to join the call by accident!
Coming in third place for men, is sex in a jacuzzi, with 26% of the vote.
Not for the faint hearted – last on the list for men is playing with hot wax, with 5% of the vote! The famous scene from Wolf of Wall Street may have seen a new flamed interest in the activity.
Methodology: OnBuy.com surveyed 1,445 men and 1,452 women, asking them to divulge their sexual bucket list. They then analysed the data and examined the top 10 activities for women and men. All data was collected late in September.